What Makes A Relationship Work
April 3, 2025 / ODUSOLA AYOMIKUN
A relationship involving a father, a mother and child is called a Family. When a boy is friends with a girl with the intention of getting married to her, it's called Courtship
When two or more different individuals of same or opposite genders with probably different or similar background, culture, identities, religion, passions, interests or goals co-exist; may engage in some discussion or together moments it's called Friendship. Also a relationship between business mates is called Partnership. The relationship peculiar to a church, assembly or cult is otherwise called Fellowship.
I could go on with a relatively long list of different sorts of relationships and their individual implications; and to all that relationship entails 'What really makes a relationship work !!!'.
To the least of my knowledge, life is not meant to be spent alone. Yeah the truth be told; The existence of man could never have been a sole business for just man. I remember the Holy book telling the story of creation, God; the ever sufficient creator of the universe made the whole universe before installing man into the system.
Man came into existence to the company of the trees and animals. He could carefully watch he's steps so he doesn't crush the tiny ant and get out of the way of the giant African elephant. He had an already existing family of living things unlike himself. Then came Eve and the rest is history.
So we all as humans are expected to meet someone at such points in our lives. The opportunity of coming into the world to a father and a mother, the convoy of siblings, the loyalty of friends, the guidance of a teacher, the mercies of a boss, the joy of a soulmate and finally the support of undertakers. We've always needed some standing at such points in life.
For the seemly longest and most evolving relationship after family, 'Friendship' takes a place in our lives that can't just be over emphasized. Just as the saying goes 'Show me your friend and I will tell you who you are'. So much of you to tell form the company you keep.
Let's be a little basic. When I was in the womb and just a foetus with the thinest hope of seeing the world, only for the placenta and daily prayers from Momma and Papa. I had a friend, I'll love to call the umbilical cord, definitely sure of fiddling with the rope second to the thumb.
Being a baby was a different phase, I'd mother for my world. Stares into her lovely eyes gave solace, milk from her fondly breast gave life. Her back had more comfort than the Majesty Vi-Spring bed and her voice sang the sweetest lullaby.
From the basics of being a foetus and then a baby, life transcends into adolescence and eventually adulthood. Well speak less of friendships after the age forty. Life expectancy reduces and man just wants to keep a peaceful flourishing family with the expectancy of atleast fifty people attending his funeral. Just
Little wonder how we've made the phrase; 'Twenty children, cannot play together for twenty years' our deafening motto. With more retrospect to friendships raging from childhood, which have survived some not so relevant quarrels and strifes and have spilled over into adolescence. So much for ''We were once friends but now we just talk once in a while".
Sorry to say my friend, you're soon treading down the path to enduring a supposedly life long partner, a boring pastor and far from home Christmas with your children. But there's hope, and a question of the heart, by the heart and for the heart. 'What make a relationship work ?'.
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